Criticism is futile because it puts a man on the defensive, and usually makes him strive to justify his or herself. Criticism is dangerous, it wounds a man's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouse his resentment. When he or she is wrong, try to understand him or her first.
Rule 2: Always appreciate each other (flattery).
There is one thing everybody desires. That is what distinguishes us from other higher animals. And that is the craving to be great. In order words, the desire to be important. Don't take it away from them. Think of it, why do ladies lose it when they get flattered? Flattery can also be a weapon. When used, the victim becomes hypnotized, making it easier to get whatever you want.
Rule 3: Don't look at what you want but what they want.
When you want fish, you put a bait on the hook to catch the fish. The bait is that which your sure the fish wants to eat. Have you though of putting what you want as the bait let's say rice and see what you would catch? Stop a while and think about what your partner wants or needs, and see the resultant change in your relationship or marriage.
Rule 4: Be genuinely interested in Each other.
Did you ever stop to think that dog is the only animal that doesn't have to work for a living? Hen lays eggs; cow gives milk; canary sings. But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love. This rule is just a reciprocal action. You love and get it back in return.
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