HELL YEAH! I wouldn't ask her to hang out immediately after opening though.
Going direct shows balls, initiative, and waste less time. You'll also get immediate feedback from the women you talk to, so it's easy to adjust your approach. Another benefit is finding out whether she has a boyfriend or not right upfront (although some girls will save that info for when you ask her number). No point wasting time or being shy.
Another HUGE BENEFIT is that you'll challenge yourself to handle rejection and other fears. It's a great way to up social skills and grow a thicker skin.
Having said that, it's still beneficial to go indirect sometimes. In some casual settings it may be a better, non-pressure approach that will get a better reaction.
If, for example, you're in a clothing store and there are lots of people there, not only will you feel the pressure (which is good) but the girl will feel the pressure of the other people eavesdropping.
By making a comment on something situational, like the clothing she's looking at, "That would look terrible on you" (said with a smile) you can get into a fun conversation which doesn't draw as much attention.
So, the answer is both, but in general girls will be more attracted to guys who can go all-in by being direct. The way you approach her however, will often come down to the scenario you're in.
Going direct shows balls, initiative, and waste less time. You'll also get immediate feedback from the women you talk to, so it's easy to adjust your approach. Another benefit is finding out whether she has a boyfriend or not right upfront (although some girls will save that info for when you ask her number). No point wasting time or being shy.
Another HUGE BENEFIT is that you'll challenge yourself to handle rejection and other fears. It's a great way to up social skills and grow a thicker skin.
Having said that, it's still beneficial to go indirect sometimes. In some casual settings it may be a better, non-pressure approach that will get a better reaction.
If, for example, you're in a clothing store and there are lots of people there, not only will you feel the pressure (which is good) but the girl will feel the pressure of the other people eavesdropping.
By making a comment on something situational, like the clothing she's looking at, "That would look terrible on you" (said with a smile) you can get into a fun conversation which doesn't draw as much attention.
So, the answer is both, but in general girls will be more attracted to guys who can go all-in by being direct. The way you approach her however, will often come down to the scenario you're in.
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