I got married as early as in my 20s subsequent to getting pregnant. Presently I am 53, separated, solo polyamorous

Jennifer Keller, 53, got pregnant in her 20s and remained with the dad for a long time.

After they separated, she found polyamory, and has been solo polyamorous for a long time.

Solo polyamory implies having various accomplices, no essential accomplice, and a free way of life.

This as-told-to paper depends on a discussion with Jennifer Keller. It has been altered for length and lucidity.

I was hitched for quite some time. We got hitched after just five months together in light of the fact that I was pregnant with our most memorable kid. We had another kid and cooperated for quite a long time to attempt to make an effective marriage, yet there was a key inconsistency. It just arrived where we thought perhaps we would be in an ideal situation not being together.

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After our marriage finished in 2011, I was in a progression of long haul monogamous connections, and polyamory truly was not on my radar. Be that as it may, in 2018, the separation of a truly serious relationship caused me to acknowledge what I truly looked for from my personal connections. I like my space, however I additionally truly esteem cozy associations.

I was simply perusing the web one day when I went over this polyamory thing. Perusing more about it, I thought it seemed like something lined up with where I was then in my life. I was instructing and composing my PhD exposition simultaneously, basically working two regular positions, so my life was extremely, full, and yet I had needs for association, closeness, and delight.

Thus, in 2020, I began rehearsing polyamory, on the grounds that I didn't need that endorsed relationship thing. It's given me adaptability, is more lined up with where I'm correct now in my life, and is supporting to me.

Solo polyamory implies I have different connections, however my essential relationship is with myself

As far as I might be concerned, solo polyamory implies having connections which are satisfying, significant, and adoring, however my essential relationship is with myself. I'm seeing someone yet I'm not hoping to get on the "relationship lift," where there's the assumption that you're dating, then you quit fooling around, then, at that point, you're elite, then accomplices, and afterward perhaps you get hitched or structure a homegrown organization.

Since our way of life is so monogamous, when individuals catch wind of non-monogamy, they consider cheating and mystery. Yet, for my purposes, non-monogamy or polyamory is about transparency, genuineness, and being consistent with yourself in a drastically fair manner.

I consider my connections like air pockets, separate from one another — rather than the cliché picture of polyamory with accomplices lounging around a kitchen table, where they all realize one another and all speak with one another.

I have two better halves, dispassionate organizations, and I date new individuals one time per week

I have two connections at the present time. I'm nearly at the two-year point in a relationship with someone who's likewise collaborated in a drawn out open relationship, and afterward I have a more current relationship with a likewise solo poly. person. We're a couple of months in and it's going perfectly.

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